Depression. Postpartum and all the other kinds.
“Postpartum depression” is such a scary term. You rarely hear about the functioning moms that battle depression and anxiety. It’s always the horrific stories that make the news that scare you out of even uttering the words “postpartum depression” before you’ve even had the baby.
I will say this… there are lots of LOTS of feelings that happen after you have your baby. And sometimes even during your pregnancy. I could go into all of the instances that affected my mental state but really the point is this – for moms: do not compare your situation, or how you feel to anyone else. Maybe it’s not as bad as others, maybe it’s worse? The only thing that matters is that IT’S YOURS. And it’s okay to feel. For the confidants: I am not a professional but neither are you… that is important to remember. When a hormonal mom is confiding in you, they may not be looking for a fix or any magic words. They might just need an ear.
In my experience, I have a lot of people who love me and don’t want to see me hurting. It makes them uncomfortable! I get a lot of “problem fixers”. I get a lot of “omg you’re okay! You have a beautiful baby boy!”. I get some “this is everything you ever wanted!”, and other pacifying comments. While they mean well, sometimes it hurts more than helps. Be open with your loved ones. Tell them you need someone to just listen to what may sound irrational. Get professional help! I love talking to my therapist! Don’t run from this. You’re not alone, you’re not crazy, and there is help.